So I was just browsing my home page on facebook and I saw a couple mom’s had posted this link http://gcaptain.com/maritime/blog/drowning/?10981 with the title “Drowning doesn’t look like drowning” If you don’t want to take any more of your time reading it I shall sum it up a bit. Basically it was talking about how the way you see people “drowning” in movies or TV shows is unrealistic and it gives you a false sense of what drowning really is. Immediately, the first thought that ran through my head was how mentally drowning is the same way. When you are having stress, doubt, fear, thoughts of worthlessness, depression, ect… you don’t scream out to the world that you need help, it’s more of a silent surrender to the “water” whatever the “water” is. You fall in hands up straight only able to gasp for air before falling under the surface unable to utter a sound. When someone is emotionally or mentally “drowning” they have certain instincts they use to keep themselves from going all the way under but they have a hard time attracting the attention of someone that is willing to help them because situations disable their ability to call out for help. I have no doubt in my mind whatsoever that you know someone who is emotionally or mentally silently drowning, or maybe it’s you. The question isn’t whether you know someone who’s drowning, it’s what you’re gonna do about it. Pass by and let their precious life slip away, or dive in to save them. The choice is yours. Just know that they most likely will not call out to you, you must look out for them in order to realize they are actually drowning.
Something else about a drowning person, (I know this because my dad was a lifeguard) is that when you go to save them, their first reaction isn’t letting you save them. They will fight back, they might even seem like they’re trying to drown you and you’l probably find yourself struggling to stay above water.
I remembered that much but I couldn’t remember exactly why so I researched it and this is what i found
“Persons who are drowning are generally in a panicked state and possess unusual strength and power. Unfortunately, this has resulted in the victim unintentionally pulling under and drowning the rescuer. If you do enter the water, repeat firmly to the victim to remain calm and stop fighting the water. Encourage them to hold onto you and float on their backs. By floating on their backs, the water will help buoy them, which will make it easier for you to pull them to safety. If a person continues to panic and their violent thrashing begins to pull you under, try to break free from their grasp so you can regain your strength and leverage in the water. Once you have recovered, again attempt to rescue them by repeating the need for them to remain calm and to float on their backs as you pull them to safety.”
So thats pretty graphic to me, if they accidentally start pulling you down with them, break free, regain your strength and go in again to save them. The easiest alternative is you yourself not jumping in after them but telling them that your there and throwing them something to pull them out, but when that doesn’t work sometimes you just have to jump in after them. If they fight back it’s not because they don’t want your help but they are confusing your help with the water thats drowning them and they aren’t quite sure how to react due to their current state of panic. The best you can do is to let them know you’re there and that safety is on it’s way.
Live long and prosper, Tori.